Why on Earth is your Mama (or Baby Mama) Calling Me?

“Recently a former colleague shared with me over FB that she once had the spouse of an applicant of interest inform her that all dealings must go through the spouse for approval. Needless to say, that was their first and last conversation.” -The CR

I know it sounds crazy, but there have been numerous occasions where I have received resume submissions, emails, and phone calls from begging parents, hoping that by reaching out on behalf of their child they will somehow influence a hiring decision. This is a huge red flag on so many inappropriate levels. I hope that I wouldn’t have to explain why this is not a good idea. However, I will say that I have never responded to a parent or spouse, so that should say it all.

If you are interested in a position, and have someone apply on your behalf, this tells a recruiter so many unwanted things about your character. A few that come to mind … you are not an independent thinker, likely incapable of making solid decisions, you probably lack leadership skills, and it puts your ability to make sound and rational judgments into question.

THE CANDID TRUTH: If you want to be taken seriously as a job-seeker, never allow your baby mama, parent, spouse, partner, etc., take the initiative to get you a J-O-B. Point. Blank. Period.